25: Boundaries with Control

Freedom and love are the foundation of a good marriage. But why do some seek to control their spouses? How do they do that? And if you’re the controlling spouse, can you still break free, or set boundaries, from this damaging habit?

In today’s episode, we are going to talk up again about boundaries, but this time we’re going to talk about one segment of boundaries in your marriage: control. Learn the dark truth behind controlling spouses, the four ways they do it, and how couples get into the cycle of emotions that separate them further away from each other every time.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • How to spot patterns of behavior that center on control
  • How spouses send guilt message to each other
  • Different forms of showing anger
  • Why it’s time to give up attempts to control your spouse
  • A reality that you have to accept so you can stop controlling your spouse
  • Why finding other sources of love, other than your spouse, is better for you

Hope is still on the horizon if you listen, learn and take action. Don’t miss this podcast, learn to place a higher value on love, and take action to examine yourself. Unlock the reasons for your controlling behavior and resolve to change to be the person your spouse will cherish and love.



“When you truly love each other, you both want each other to grow. And at some point, you’re going to want to give up these attempts to control. You’re going to be willing to relinquish these strategies in favor of granting freedom and love.” – Amy

“If you will not do it, read it, write it, say it, think it, act it without your spouse standing right next to you. That is a clue that it is not OK in your marriage.” – Amy

“Marriage has more to do with bringing yourself under the control of yourself than it does with controlling your spouse.” – Amy


Additional Resources:

Spark: Re-Ignite Your Marriage

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Jesus' Daughter, Wife, Mom, CEO, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, High-Performance Business Coach, Podcast Host, & Professional Taco-Eater