Negotiating Your Marital Style

19: An 18 Year Old’s View on Marriage: A Sit Down Chat with My Son, Austin

What effects can our marital conflicts have on our children? And what can we do to decrease stress and boost intimacy regardless of family stressors and other outside factors?

In this episode, I’m joined by my 18-year-old son and budding entrepreneur, Austin who offers a fresh take on marriage and parenting from the other side. I get his thoughts on marriage, conflict and he offers some blush-inducing, yet accurate advice. Listen in for his unique perspective and my top tips to avoid becoming marriage-roommates.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • Our son’s take on our marriage
  • The ways conflict may be affecting your children.
  • Why we sometimes choose to fight over the small things in relationships.
  • Tips for improving intimacy and how to avoid being married-roommates.


Episode Highlights:

[0:03] Meet Amy & John

[00:51] Spark! Reignite your marriage

[01:20] Meet our son, Austin

[01:54] How parental conflict affects him

[04:46] What it means to be a “Karen”

[06:48] Fighting about small things

[09:14] What Austin would change about his parent’s relationship

[10:34] Thoughts on how he affects his parent’s marriage

[11:41] What can couples do to overcome conflict

[12:25] Should married-roommates stay together?

[14:37] Amy’s tips for boosting intimacy in your marriage



“I’ve learned to deal with people of all types and just turn the shoulder or kill them with kindness really.   It is probably better than getting into conflicts and then you end up getting fired and nothing really happens to them.”- Austin [05:26]

“We start fighting about the small things because sometimes the big things are too hard to even address.”- Amy [8:08]

After you email me, be sure to head over to and sign up for my FREE beta course called SPARK.  This course will help you reignite your marriage like you just said I do.  Who doesn’t want that?! It’s going to hit on every one of these transformations and will tell you exactly how you can change it.  

SPARK will be full of actionable, detailed information that you can take home to reignite your marriage.  As a bonus, I will be going live every week for 3 weeks in our group to answer all of your questions so get them ready! 

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I will see you all here next week! 



Additional Resources:

Take Your Marriage From Roommate Status to on FIRE –> Married Roommates

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I’m a small-town Oklahoma girl living the big city life in Houston, Texas with even BIGGER dreams. I was an elementary school teacher turned marriage and family therapist with a passion for helping families live their best lives.

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Jesus' Daughter, Wife, Mom, CEO, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, High-Performance Business Coach, Podcast Host, & Professional Taco-Eater