7: Quick Tips for Putting Intimacy Back in your Marriage Using the CLEAVE Acronym

In today’s episode I will be doing something a little different.  This will be short and sweet, but value-packed, so I hope you tune in.  Today’s episode was inspired by a book written by Everett Worthington called Hope Focused Marriage.  I have used these suggestions many times in my counseling sessions with married couples so I hope you enjoy! 

On Today’s Episode I Discuss: 

  • How to stimulate your closeness 
  • The CLEAVE Acronym, where it came from and how it can be used 
  • C- Change actions to positive.  What is something that is negative that you could change to positive?
  • L- Loving romance- Try to show romance again.  What did you do at the beginning of your relationship?
  • E- Employ a calendar- Rearrange your calendar and add in positive events that bring back time together. 
  • A- Adjust intimacy elsewhere- Husbands and wives have different levels of intimacy. Figure out what level you need. 
  • V- Value your partner- Valuing love builds intimacy.  When we feel valued, we feel closer to the one who loves us. 
  • E- Enjoy yourself sexually- learn to communicate better in the bedroom


Resources Mentioned: 

Hope Focused Marriage Book 


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Jesus' Daughter, Wife, Mom, CEO, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, High-Performance Business Coach, Podcast Host, & Professional Taco-Eater